Mixing and Enduring

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

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‘Abd Allah bin ‘Umar رضي الله عنه narrated that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said:

المؤمن الذي يخالط الناس و يصبر على أذاهم ، أفضل من المؤمن الذي لا يخالط الناس و لا يصبر على أذاهم

“The believer who mixes (and associates) with people and patiently endures (and tolerates) their injury is better than the believer who does not mix with people and does not patiently endure their injury.” [1]

This narration has many profound benefits, from them are the following three:

1. The word أذاهم means more than injury, it denotes every type of damage or offense or annoyance caused by people, whether physical, verbal or mental. The most glaring example would by the bitter harsh experience of the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم himself when he travelled to Ta’if to invite its people to Islam. His صلى الله عليه وسلم composure and manner in face of severe physical injury and verbal attacks suffered at the hands and tongues of the people epitomises a moral standing in the history of this ummah that will continue to guide Muslims until the Last Day.

2. It is necessary for Muslims in general and the preachers in particular to be patient with the people for any harm they may encounter, to recognise the reward for such an attitude and always show discerning acumen. Any suffering experienced while standing for the truth is indeed greatly rewarded – and that patience, compassion and mercy must not be compromised when delivering the message of Islam. Allah سبحانه و تعالى Said to the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم regarding his gentleness:

فَبِمَا رَحْمَةٍ مِّنَ اللَّهِ لِنتَ لَهُمْ ۖ وَلَوْ كُنتَ فَظًّا غَلِيظَ الْقَلْبِ لَانفَضُّوا مِنْ حَوْلِكَ ۖ فَاعْفُ عَنْهُمْ وَاسْتَغْفِرْ لَهُمْ وَشَاوِرْهُمْ فِي الْأَمْرِ

“And by the Mercy of Allah, you dealt with them gently. And had you been severe and harsh-hearted, they would have broken away from about you; so pass over (their faults), and ask (Allah’s) Forgiveness for them; and consult them in the affairs…” [2]

4. This profound Ayah provides a blueprint for the type of characteristics one should adopt in dealing with people around them. Not only does it call for being polite and gentle and overlooking their faults, while seeking Allah’s guidance for them, it also asks to be empathetic to their situation and to discuss their affairs in bringing about mutual understanding and reasoning. Qatadah said about the words: ولو كنت فظا غليظ القلب لانفضوا من حولك – that Allah cleansed him صلى الله عليه وسلم from (using) vulgar language and cruelty and made him (become) closer to the believers through his (adapting of) mercy…” [3]. This can only be achieved when one excels in morality. As Allah سبحانه و تعالى Said:

وَلَمَن صَبَرَ وَغَفَرَ إِنَّ ذَ‌ٰلِكَ لَمِنْ عَزْمِ الْأُمُورِ

“And whosoever shows patience and forgives, verily that would be from (the resolute) things recommended (by Allah).” [4]

 

References:

[1] Al-Bukhari, ‘Al-Adab al-Mufrad’, 300; Ibn Majah, 3273; Al-Bayhaqi, 18573 and others – graded as hasan by Ibn Hajar (Bulugh al-Maram, 451), Al-Ajluni (Kashf al-Khafa’, 2/446), Ibn Muflih (Al-Aadab al-Shar’iyyah, 3/449); Al-Manawi and others; Al-Albani said it was saheeh (Saheeh al-Jaami’, 6651 & Silsilat al-Saheehah, 939). See also Saheeh at-Tirmidhi, 2507 with the wording “verily the Muslim who”; Musnad Ahmad, 4875 (7/94), which Ahmad Shakir grading as saheeh; and Saheeh Ibn Majah, 3273 with the wording “has greater reward” and graded as saheeh by al-Albani.

[2] Aal-Imran, 159
[3] See Tafseer Al-Tabari, 8120
[4] Ash-Shoorah, 43

See also, shaykh Waleed al-Sa’eedan’s short commentary: http://www.ahlalhdeeth.com/vb/showthread.php?t=251587

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