Most Hated of Permissible Things

ุจุณู… ุงู„ู„ู‡ ุงู„ุฑุญู…ู† ุงู„ุฑุญูŠู…

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Allah ุฌู„ ุฌู„ุงู„ู‡ย Said in Suratul Furqan (54):

ูˆูŽู‡ููˆูŽ ุงู„ู‘ูŽุฐููŠ ุฎูŽู„ูŽู‚ูŽ ู…ูู†ูŽ ุงู„ู’ู…ูŽุงุกู ุจูŽุดูŽุฑู‹ุง ููŽุฌูŽุนูŽู„ูŽู‡ู ู†ูŽุณูŽุจู‹ุง ูˆูŽุตูู‡ู’ุฑู‹ุง

And it is He who has created from water a human being and made him [a relative by] lineage and marriage…

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It has been narrated that the Messenger of Allah ๏ทบ is reported to have said:

ุฃูŽุจู’ุบูŽุถู ุงู„ู’ุญูŽู„ุงูŽู„ู ุฅูู„ูŽู‰ ุงู„ู„ู‘ูŽู‡ู ุงู„ุทู‘ูŽู„ุงูŽู‚ู

โ The most hated of permissible things to Allah is divorce. โž ย [1]

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Divorce has become a convenient scourge upon the ‘Ummah today; people easily washing their hands of familial responsibility – wreaking in their midst – devastation in the lives of wives and children; many of whom end up losing their stability and religious identities too. Ending up in the arms of pop culture and hedonistic societal “norms”.

ุงู„ู‚ุงุนุฏุฉ ุงู„ุชูŠ ูŠูˆุตู‰ ุจู‡ุง ุนู†ุฏ ุงู„ุฎู„ุงู ุจูŠู† ุงู„ุฒูˆุฌูŠู† ู‡ูŠ ๏ดฟ ุฃู…ุณูƒ ุนู„ูŠูƒ ุฒูˆุฌูƒ ูˆุงุชู‚ ุงู„ู„ู‡ย ๏ดพย  ูู„ุง ุชูˆุตูŠ ุฃุญุฏ ุงู„ุฒูˆุฌูŠู† ุจุงู„ุงู†ูุตุงู„ ูˆุฃู†ุช ุชุฌุฏ ู„ู„ูˆูุงู‚ ุณุจูŠู„ุง

“A (highly advised) fundamental rule when a dispute between spouses arises {Hold on to your husband and fear Allah}ย It is never recommend that one of the couple disengage (and separate), for you will (eventually) find a path towards conciliation.”

ูˆ ุชุฐูƒุฑ โ€ุงู„ู…ุญุจุฉ ูˆุงู„ุนู„ุงู‚ุฉ ุงู„ุฒูˆุฌูŠุฉ ุงู„ุฑููŠุนุฉ ู„ุงุชุฃุชูŠ ุจูŠู† ูŠูˆู… ูˆู„ูŠู„ุฉ! ุจู„ ู‡ูŠ ุฑุตูŠุฏ ุถุฎู… ู…ู† ุงู„ุนุทุงุก ูˆุงู„ุจุฐู„ ูˆุงู„ุชุถุญูŠุฉ ูˆุงู„ุชุนุงูˆู† ุนุจุฑ ุนู‚ูˆุฏ ู…ู† ุงู„ุฒู…ู†!

“Love and marital bonds are not formed over a day and night, but require a huge deposit of giving, making sacrifice and cooperation over decades!”

ูุฑุฃูˆโ€ู„ุง ูŠุตุญู‘ ุฃู† ูŠูุจู†ู‰ ุงู„ุฒูˆุงุฌ ุนู„ู‰ ุงู„ุญุจู‘ ูˆุญุฏู‡ ุฅู„ู‘ุง ุฅู† ุตุญู‘ ุฃู† ุชูุจู†ู‰ ุงู„ุนู…ุงุฑุฉ ุงู„ุถุฎู…ุฉ ุนู„ู‰ ุฃุณุงุณ ู…ู† ุงู„ู…ู„ุญุŒ ููŠ ู…ุฌุฑู‰ ุงู„ู…ุงุก

“(It is also) not true that marriage is built on love alone, it is true however true, that the erection of a tall building is built on the foundation of salt in the (running) stream of water.” In other words, the dynamics of any marital relationship needs to be nurtured and constantly weighed against anything that might risk or upset the harmony between the spouses.

And there are many statements from ‘Umar ibn al-Khattab for example, pertaining to maintaining of the Muslim household, even it is requires bearing with a loveless marriage, for the alternative usually fares far worse for all those involved. Problem with many trigger-happy Muslims nowadays is that they act hastily and do not ponder enough over the devastating consequences of divorce.

The Shari’ah has, with all its wisdom and acute acumen of human condition, has provided for separation where the genuine need and betterment of the parties is safeguarded as much as possible. It recognises and caters for exit strategies for the sake of preserving human dignity and sanctity of life and religion. There is a due process, which may also involve counselling and conciliatory approach; the clause must not be abused or taken liberties with.

May Allah strengthen and preserve the bonds of marriage where a workable solution can be found, and separation is not considered the standard solution.

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Further reading:
https://www.islam21c.com/islamic-thought/dont-play-dare-with-divorce/
https://www.islam21c.com/islamic-thought/protecting-a-marriage-from-tearing-apart/

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[1] ย A very well-known narration that is found many books of hadeeth. Most scholars classify it as being from the ‘mursal’ narrations, although others have authenticated it to a higher grade. See ‘Sunan Abi Da’wud’, #2178; Al-Bayhaqi, ‘Sunan al-Sagheer’, 3/112; ‘Fath al-Bari’, 9/269; Al-Albani, ‘Irwa’ al-Ghaleel’, 7/108 (and ‘Al-Ta’aliqat’, 2/238); Ibn Baz, ‘Majmu’ Fatawa’, 25/253. See also Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, ‘Sharh Buloogh al-Maram’, 5/4

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