Brotherly Effection

بسم الله والحمد لله والصلاة والسلام على رسول الله وعلى آله وصحبه ومن تبع هداه وبعد


‘Ali ibn Harb narrated that Imam Sufyan ibn ‘Uyaynah رحمه الله تعالى said (to him):

إذا تأكدت المودة بينك و بين أخيك فلا يضرك أن لا تلقى صاحبها

“When you are certain that affection exists between you and your brother, then it will not harm you if you do not meet him.” [Al-Bayhaqi, ‘Shu’ab al-Imaan’, 6/333]


1. Khalf ibn Isma’eel Al-Barzaani reported that he heard Sufyan ath-Thawri say: “Acquaint yourself with fewer people, and as a result, you will backbite less (frequently).” And Sufyan ibn ‘Uyaynah said: “I once saw ath-Thawri in my sleep and I said to him, ‘Advise me,’ and he responded, ‘Acquaint yourself with fewer people.”

2. Sufyan ath-Thawri also said: “Having too many acquaintances diverts one from one’s duty towards one’s Rabb, for a person who has many friends is always (busy) socialising with them and fulfilling their rights over him; so he becomes preoccupied with people when he really should be preoccupied with his religious duties.”

3. Less aquaintance with friends and people does not mean we can’t remain on a continual good basis with them – and the statement of ibn ‘Uyaynah above is a statement of wisdom, which combines good Brotherhood and ‘Husn ad-Dhan’ while not neglecting the obligated rights.


Regarding a Muslim’s right, Abu Hurayrah رضي الله عنه narrated that the Messenger of Allaah صلى الله عليه وسلم said, “The rights of the Muslim (upon the Muslim) are six.” It was said, “And what are they Oh Messenger of Allaah?” He صلى الله عليه وسلم replied, “When you meet him, give him the greeting of peace, when he invites you, respond to his invitation, when he seeks your advice, advise him, when he sneezes and praises Allaah, supplicate for mercy upon him, when he becomes ills, visit him, and when he dies follow him (i.e. his funeral).” [Saheeh Muslim]

Allaamah ‘Abd al-Rahman As-Sa’di explained this crucial hadeeth in ‘Bahjat al-Quloob al-Abrar wa Qurratu ‘uyoon al-Akhyar fi Jaami’ al-Akhbar’, pgs 65-67 (hadeeth no. 29) thus:  Six Rights of Every Muslim


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: